Healing. And getting back on my feet.

"themanwithsauce - has as many vehicles as job titles" (themanwithsauce)
07/14/2017 at 00:33 • Filed to: None

Well, as some of you may have noticed, I’ve been getting hyped over the possibility of a Focus ST sitting in my driveway. To be honest, while I had some limits set in place to make sure it wouldn’t hurt me, this was an emotional decision as much as it was a practical/opportunistic one. I’m happy I did it, even if it isn’t 100% a rational, easy decision.

Right, so, there’s the car situation settled. Now for the story behind why I wanted it. And to save time and arguing, the FiST as a vehicle is incredible. Buy one. Especially if you’ve only owned crappy sedans. But put 60k hard miles on one and get shafted by a dealership in another state and consistently be outclassed on equipment at driving events and, well, you start to envy the bigger brother. It might not be the best decision for others on here, but it’s my car and my money so whatever. I’m also painfully aware of the emotional side to all of this...

**emotional rant follows....very few cars here.....you’ve been warned**

See, I’m coming off of a kinda rough breakup with a girlfriend of 3 years. It happened gradually. A few months of inattention and white lies gradually became more bitter and toxic. She kept lying more and more and acting out in public in front of other people. More and more of our friends stopped hanging out with “us” because they viewed her behavior as rude (and it kinda was....). I used to always say things to them like “She’s just stressed, she didn’t mean to insult you” or having to tell people at parties I need to be close to her cause she was having an emotional night. TO her defense, an ex of hers was being investigated for emotional and sexual abuse of multiple women, including her. But that doesn’t excuse treating me, and our friends, like shit. Not when she expected that the world be given to her.

I could go on about her. And in my original draft, I did. It was many paragraphs of personal stories and observations but, I think that’s a bit unnecessary. I’m a far from perfect person, but I shouldn’t feel bad for wanting to be treated just like everybody else. Despite my best efforts, thoughts of her/us form the good times come up when I’m in the car. Memories of road trips and fun roads. Teaching her to drive stick. It’s just......draining.

And then there was the dealership experience i had with Mitchell Selig Ford. A New London, CT dealership that broke my car in so many different ways that they completely ruined my love affair with my car. THey removed my steel brake lines and put on stock lines because my old lines were “causing issues”. This then led to them needing to “adjust my brake pedal switch” because the brake lines didn’t fix the problem. The resulting repair left me with inoperable brake lights and a cruise control that would accelerate the car when I pressed the brake. Oh, and somehow they bashed into not one, not two, but at least THREE turbo pipes that gave me massive power leaks everywhere. All of this and all I needed was new discs and pads....

I’ve been struggling with it for the past few months. I spent almost a grand in “repairs” and diagnostic fees afterwards. All dealerships I took it to and charged me 100$ said I was seeing ghosts about the lack of power. My OBD scanner said otherwise with the 5 PSI of boost. I did what I could but whoever whacked on of those pipes knocked something off way up in there. More time needed for repairs. Oh, and the rear brakes (which the dumbass shop said were perfect) are worn down too. ANd the rear brakes on a fiesta are a pain in the ass. And the AC blend door actuator is broken and knocks and that’s a pain in the ass too.....Everything is just so much time. SO many reminders every time I get into it that there’s more to do.

It hurts to see something I used to enjoy be ruined by other people in my life. It hurts even more that one of those people was someone I loved. As much as I want to fight and reclaim it all, I’m just so tired of having to fight people on a daily basis. I know that if things weren’t working out financially, I could still drive my Fiesta and enjoy it. But I also know I would probably never love it again as much as I did in the previous years. And since this came out of the blue, I think I’ll take the Focus ST up on its offer, and get back on my feet.

DISCUSSION (20)

Shoop > themanwithsauce - has as many vehicles as job titles
07/14/2017 at 00:43

Flex my boost > themanwithsauce - has as many vehicles as job titles
07/14/2017 at 01:11

Occasionally the best thing to do in life is start the fuck over. I’m sure that’s exactly what you need. Best of luck

valsidalv, reminding you that infiniti is an option > themanwithsauce - has as many vehicles as job titles
07/14/2017 at 01:12

Attaboy, get back up on your feet with a new ride and it will be the beginning of great things. Although not easy, it’s sometimes better to let things (and people) go.

themanwithsauce - has as many vehicles as job titles > valsidalv, reminding you that infiniti is an option
07/14/2017 at 01:32

THanks. The rough part is gone but I still am a bit bitter about it all. Thankfully a lot of friends came out of the woodwork to support me. So things are looking up.

themanwithsauce - has as many vehicles as job titles > Flex my boost
07/14/2017 at 01:35

Heh. One of the oddities about the FiST was that I always struggled with naming it. Every other car I owned had a name and nothing ever stuck with the FiST. But the FoST already has a proper name and an informal nickname. I think it’s off to a better start already.

Her formal name will be saved for the reveal, but her nickname is “The Banana Express”.

themanwithsauce - has as many vehicles as job titles > Shoop
07/14/2017 at 01:37

Flex my boost > themanwithsauce - has as many vehicles as job titles
07/14/2017 at 01:39

Already off to a better relationship. Won’t take much longer and the past will be just that “over, finished, forgotten, and better”.

BlueMazda2 - Blesses the rains down in Africa, Purveyor of BMW Individual Arctic Metallic, Merci Twingo > themanwithsauce - has as many vehicles as job titles
07/14/2017 at 01:56

That’s a very a-peel-ing name

themanwithsauce - has as many vehicles as job titles > BlueMazda2 - Blesses the rains down in Africa, Purveyor of BMW Individual Arctic Metallic, Merci Twingo
07/14/2017 at 03:12

I was a bit split on it at first.

random001 > themanwithsauce - has as many vehicles as job titles
07/14/2017 at 06:45

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random001 > themanwithsauce - has as many vehicles as job titles
07/14/2017 at 06:45

Ice Screamed when I read it.

RallyDarkstrike - Fan of 2-cyl FIATs, Eastern Bloc & Kei cars > themanwithsauce - has as many vehicles as job titles
07/14/2017 at 07:15

Sorry to hear of the drama friend :(

Good luck with the new ride and the new life!

DAWRX - The Herb Strikes Back > themanwithsauce - has as many vehicles as job titles
07/14/2017 at 07:41

I’m probably focusing on the wrong part of this story, but why would they replace your brake likes without having you authorize the repair?? Could you have made them just stick to the work you brought it in for?

themanwithsauce - has as many vehicles as job titles > DAWRX - The Herb Strikes Back
07/14/2017 at 08:14

Oh, I authorized it because it did look a bit wonky on first glance and I was traveling. I figured if it didn’t fix the issue they would refund me the repair cost. Oh how young and innocent I was.

Jordan and the Slowrunner, Boomer Intensifies > themanwithsauce - has as many vehicles as job titles
07/14/2017 at 08:15

Isn’t there a blend door recall?

DAWRX - The Herb Strikes Back > themanwithsauce - has as many vehicles as job titles
07/14/2017 at 08:54

Ah okay. Well anyways, congratulations on the new car. That yellow is really good looking on that car. You’re gonna make your fellow commuters days less dull for sure.

Hammerdown > themanwithsauce - has as many vehicles as job titles
07/14/2017 at 09:31

Get a different car, move if you need to (not sure if you were/are living together) and find something (probably the new car) to devote some spare time and thinking to. I used a motorcycle for this after my ex (we were together 3 years) and I broke up and I was outsourced from my job. It helped me stay busy and keep a positive outlook. 2 1/2 years later I’ve found a fantastic girl who understands me and I have a successful career with a new company.

Still have the bike, too.

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07/14/2017 at 09:48

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Arrivederci > themanwithsauce - has as many vehicles as job titles
07/14/2017 at 10:12

I feel you - I got rid of my old Miata for partially the same reason. Got divorced, had stupidly titled it in both our names, reminded me a bit, so I got rid of it. I’ll have another one some day and make new memories in it.

themanwithsauce - has as many vehicles as job titles > Hammerdown
07/14/2017 at 10:29

I got into bikes not long after getting into her (HIYOOOOOOO!) so yeah, it’ll be a process but I’m well on my way. Thankfully we didn’t live together, although her apartment is just a block down the street. But it’ll be fine.